Penis Size: What Women Think - Men's Health
I am in the sex toy business - and many times I am asked or a fear is brought up that a sex toy might be a replacement for the real deal. Along with this comes the issue of size. I thought this article really hit the "spot" - it's not always about size.
When I sell a toy - it's always never the king sized "dong" that you fellas and some ladies might think of - nope, it's the "more slender than large", a bit curved and colorful model you might not think of. Or it's a toy used to accentuate what's already there - like a cock-ring with a bullet attachment. Or it is a simple, quality lube or a great pillow.
Within this article, some of the comments or responses left revealed another element, "what about her size?" Hmmmm, yes - what about her size. Well, whatever the circumstances are - too deep, to loose, too shallow or too tight. It is another human element to our ever unique anatomies that makes us different. Fortunately for both his and her situation - there are solutions to explore. Exploring is fun - so even if you don't have a problem - you can still explore the possibilities. Here is my two hundred cents...
Incorporate toys into your sex play or sex lifestyle - try all kinds. While many people view toys negatively like as a "replacement" - they are quite the contrary. Toys do things the average penis or vagina cannot. Think about this when you are at one of my parties or look at my catalog and it becomes totally clear - see the design, hold it -(touch it, feel it) and you can understand the function or experience it can provide. Toys are an excellent extension to who we are and what kind of lovers we are and can be - like that musician with his guitar, a mechanic with tools, a writer with a pen, or a charmer with the mind. Toys are tools and props that we use at work and at play - so play with your toys!!
It is a hand thing - read my comments about Penn and Teller on Sugar Daddy post - Penn has these amazing hands - he keeps them well manicured. They aid him in his profession - a major part of his craft, like a musician, the necessary dexterity to play an instrument or slight of hand takes precision and practice. If you are not good at manual stimulation of your partner than you need to get more "hands-on" - practice and skill, which means investing in the time. Take time to learn the anatomy and understanding what feels good to you and your partner and why it does. I think we take our hands for granted - they are downplayed too much. I think the mixed messages (masturbation leads to blindness) about playing with ourselves or fondling our partner's naughty bits get in the way too much- which is sad. So much is felt when we feel our own body or touch another. I teach male a female "pleasure anatomy" at my venues and I give homework. Doing anatomy "homework" is fun - use a latex/non-latex medical type glove on your hand with lots of lube touch your self or your partner - try it solo - go ahead, just try it. Leave the lights on and use a mirror and pillows so you or both of you can look and ask questions about each nook, crannies, folds, spots and try get "into" the lesson. Don't forget about those notes and pictures I send home with you!
There is something said about the mouth - I think many of us can testify that oral sex is an exotic and effective way to thigh-shaking bliss. Yet, some of us find the deed less than desirable. Ladies and lads both - have issues with "going down" on their partners. Not a problem - really, it's quite common. Toys, barriers, and lubes can help - but creativity is better. Identify what it is you don't like about it. You gag, the smell, the texture, its taste, appearance - whatever it is figure it out and find something to make that negative into a positive. My tip to overcome and be a conissuer of pussy or dick is to develop an oral technique you both can enjoy. Use a sleeve and flavored lube while you give him head. Plastic-wrap or dental dams feel awesome on a primed, well lubed pussy. Talk dirty, be a good kisser, breathe and make sounds (yes, I know this sounds silly) - lip service comes in many forms and the more various ways it serves, the better.
The body/mind connection - One thing I learned in my sexual discoveries both in researching and personal discovery is the body/mind connection. Our brain is our most important and biggest part of our sexual functions. When we have incredible sex we produce chemicals that are otherwise dormant - unless we like sky dive or ride a rickshaw to work everyday. Helen Fisher explains this best (see below). Her talk on TED.com explains this mind/body thing and why we fall in love with or why we are sexually attracted to a person. Ultimately though - SIZE DOESN'T MATTER, making time to have sex and spend intimate moments with our partner does. Now get off the computer and go make love!
The irony is that men spend so much time thinking about their anatomy when they should be thinking about hers. "It's a man's knowledge of female anatomy and ability to stimulate a woman in all the right ways that determines whether or not we’re happy in bed," Nicole says.
And don’t forget foreplay. "Twenty minutes of erotic foreplay with a guy who has a penis the size of a Sharpie will be far hotter than 2 minutes of sloppy groping from a dude with a johnson the size of a flashlight," Beland says.
I am in the sex toy business - and many times I am asked or a fear is brought up that a sex toy might be a replacement for the real deal. Along with this comes the issue of size. I thought this article really hit the "spot" - it's not always about size.
When I sell a toy - it's always never the king sized "dong" that you fellas and some ladies might think of - nope, it's the "more slender than large", a bit curved and colorful model you might not think of. Or it's a toy used to accentuate what's already there - like a cock-ring with a bullet attachment. Or it is a simple, quality lube or a great pillow.
Within this article, some of the comments or responses left revealed another element, "what about her size?" Hmmmm, yes - what about her size. Well, whatever the circumstances are - too deep, to loose, too shallow or too tight. It is another human element to our ever unique anatomies that makes us different. Fortunately for both his and her situation - there are solutions to explore. Exploring is fun - so even if you don't have a problem - you can still explore the possibilities. Here is my two hundred cents...
Incorporate toys into your sex play or sex lifestyle - try all kinds. While many people view toys negatively like as a "replacement" - they are quite the contrary. Toys do things the average penis or vagina cannot. Think about this when you are at one of my parties or look at my catalog and it becomes totally clear - see the design, hold it -(touch it, feel it) and you can understand the function or experience it can provide. Toys are an excellent extension to who we are and what kind of lovers we are and can be - like that musician with his guitar, a mechanic with tools, a writer with a pen, or a charmer with the mind. Toys are tools and props that we use at work and at play - so play with your toys!!
It is a hand thing - read my comments about Penn and Teller on Sugar Daddy post - Penn has these amazing hands - he keeps them well manicured. They aid him in his profession - a major part of his craft, like a musician, the necessary dexterity to play an instrument or slight of hand takes precision and practice. If you are not good at manual stimulation of your partner than you need to get more "hands-on" - practice and skill, which means investing in the time. Take time to learn the anatomy and understanding what feels good to you and your partner and why it does. I think we take our hands for granted - they are downplayed too much. I think the mixed messages (masturbation leads to blindness) about playing with ourselves or fondling our partner's naughty bits get in the way too much- which is sad. So much is felt when we feel our own body or touch another. I teach male a female "pleasure anatomy" at my venues and I give homework. Doing anatomy "homework" is fun - use a latex/non-latex medical type glove on your hand with lots of lube touch your self or your partner - try it solo - go ahead, just try it. Leave the lights on and use a mirror and pillows so you or both of you can look and ask questions about each nook, crannies, folds, spots and try get "into" the lesson. Don't forget about those notes and pictures I send home with you!
There is something said about the mouth - I think many of us can testify that oral sex is an exotic and effective way to thigh-shaking bliss. Yet, some of us find the deed less than desirable. Ladies and lads both - have issues with "going down" on their partners. Not a problem - really, it's quite common. Toys, barriers, and lubes can help - but creativity is better. Identify what it is you don't like about it. You gag, the smell, the texture, its taste, appearance - whatever it is figure it out and find something to make that negative into a positive. My tip to overcome and be a conissuer of pussy or dick is to develop an oral technique you both can enjoy. Use a sleeve and flavored lube while you give him head. Plastic-wrap or dental dams feel awesome on a primed, well lubed pussy. Talk dirty, be a good kisser, breathe and make sounds (yes, I know this sounds silly) - lip service comes in many forms and the more various ways it serves, the better.
The body/mind connection - One thing I learned in my sexual discoveries both in researching and personal discovery is the body/mind connection. Our brain is our most important and biggest part of our sexual functions. When we have incredible sex we produce chemicals that are otherwise dormant - unless we like sky dive or ride a rickshaw to work everyday. Helen Fisher explains this best (see below). Her talk on TED.com explains this mind/body thing and why we fall in love with or why we are sexually attracted to a person. Ultimately though - SIZE DOESN'T MATTER, making time to have sex and spend intimate moments with our partner does. Now get off the computer and go make love!
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