This was a little something I put together on my land and shot in Second Life for my RL business with For Your PleasureTM - I imported pictures I took with the camera to make the products I have available for sale and demonstrate at RL parties. The images I made transparent in GIMP for the textures. I learned a lot building the set and making the props to shoot this pic - but it was worth it!
These pages were made the same as above - some things you see in the background were not made by me. However that is my avatar. I arranged a simple set and shot the photographs and did post work in Publisher (because I do not have Photoshop or Paintshop) - it still turned out well I think.
I am working on more pages ... soon. If I can ever get my new Genie Bottle House up and working.
~Rebecca aka Sloitkut Maynard For Your Pleasure, IBA
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My kids are great, typical, and normal (for the most part) and I am lucky that we have a pretty good line of communication because they come to me a lot about their life things.Things like: friends, relationships, what the other kids’ parents do, media, social issues or current events, etc.We talk – we talk a lot and sometimes it gets crazy.We project views and opinions sometimes rants and tantrums but the point is they are quite the collective group of debaters, we talk all the time, and despite this sometimes things happen.
Case in point…
My son tells me the other day (this is back-to-school gossip mind you) that a little girl who had a crush on him a couple years ago was pregnant this school year....ummm 7th grade to be exact!That will be an interesting, “What I did on Summer Vacation” essay none the less.
Case in Point #2 …
My sister last week assisted in delivering a baby from a 14 year old mother.Sadly, this is not news but an all too common occurrence here in my little town and bigger city where she lives.
Ultimate Case #3…
We had a lil’ incidence here at the home that involved my own child during summer school…I’ll spare you the details.
My point?Talking is good but not enough … it’s a solid start and foundation.Also, do more things actively, and make plans and commitments with them in regards to their future and where dating and relationships fit in with all that.
Every one of us will have or know of an adolescent or teen that is sexually active or is/was a teen-parent.Now I know every kid or parent is different, situations are different, etc., but the fact remains these little girls lives have completely changed.I speak for myself when I say that parenthood is life changing.In fact, is an understatement!
I imagine anyone that things most definitely get more complicated and that your universe has just tilted in a severe way when your teem becomes a parent.*I know it would for me!So much so it has come to my most resent attention – the reality of this possibility.Just the thought of this makes me shutter.
“When are kids having sex? It depends upon the kids. Some kids start very early. Some wait until marriage. Lots of kids have explicit conversations about sex. Studies show that nearly half of all high school aged kids are engaging in sexual activity. Of those who are sexually active, 2/3 have had more than one partner. Good, honest, sweet, smart, wonderful kids will be genuinely interested in exploring sex. Be ready for it.”
So Mom and Dad…
This is your queue –
I want you to ask yourself, how much do you think your child knows about sex.And are you ready for it?I thought I was.Now run, go ask your kid and see if your right! No, seriously, don’t do that but consider how school and the kinds of peer pressure is so different from when we were kids.I can tell you so are the trends, myths and playground advice - times have changed and the same rules don’t apply.My children have shared lots of things they hear and its reassuring they come to me for validity in the matter but it is also shocking what kids think and so after 17 years with children nothing really surprises me anymore.
Where do media, technology, music and cultural influences factor in to what you and your child thinks about in regards to sex?Do you both get the same messages?**I actually have a couple funny instances about this.
How can you start a talk about topics of sex?Simple…
If your child has ever taken “Health” class, and you look at their materials, start there.In fact, I did this three times as all my children have taken the infamous health class, and I can honestly say it’s a joke!But it allowed me to tell my kids why I thought it was and it was a wonderful opportunity to open the floor to discussion.
The more you talk the easier it gets – it really does and the older they get the easier too.
Talking about sex is more than just the mechanics or insert tab A into slot B.It is very much about body image, confidence, and self-esteem for teens.It’s about strong biological urges and chemical messages our brain is flooded with – about hormones and developing bodies.It is about the purpose of life, the reason why we seek a mate or pair bond intimately and why we chose the partners we select.Young people have these developing bodies, these changes, and thoughts – and sadly, they do not know or given enough information to decipher what it all means.Remember that health class you took? Anatomy 101 was little more than this is called a penis and a vagina and eggs and sperm and why we should be abstinent – nothing more really.
For my daughter it was about a number of things, body image, acceptance, teen love and lust, hormones, curiosity – everything.We talked, we talked a lot – we went to counseling because our line got severed the situation nearly destroyed us, but we fixed and repaired it.It is a little damaged but its functioning.All this made me re-evaluate that big thing “sex” again.How she must feel and what it was like to be where she is nearly 17 and a world full of options and wanting to be loved not as a child but as a woman.She sees school mates with babies; she has seen them develop big bellies with babies inside that kick, and the girls celebrate it.Instead of birthday sleep-overs – it’s baby showers.This is what she sees and learns at school, what her friends talk about, and what some girls WANT to do!ßRant, rant, ranting goes here.
We talked a lot and continue to talk everyday, her and me, and today it is better and we have a plan for the future that she is excited about that and I am thankful for this and that she has options still.My friend Gidge plurked, “Happiness is…” and mine was the fourth response down.My first thought was that and the second was that my granny commitments were postponed another day and that I had to write this post because it weighs heavy on my heart.I know I am not alone and hopefully this will help anyone who reads it.
Teens have lots of thoughts and questions, and I made it a point to work with my own children a home more on the matters of love, love in relationships, and love for self and where sex is in all that.I am not saying I am an expert or that it will make a huge difference but I want them to know something that might make them stop and think a moment about choices and perspective when the situation calls for it.
Sexuality is in essence of life.It is more than life changing, when it is good its earth shaking when it is bad its damaging.It is our responsibility to teach them and share our experiences, values, and thoughts on the matter and try to illustrate what is a healthy sexual lifestyle looks like.This is very hard to do – and many adults, myself included, have failed at this once or twice or more.But they also learn from your mistakes, too.They will consciously and unconsciously absorb from you what or how a relationship is by observing our actions whether they are abusive, restrictive, sexless, loving, or supporting.More importantly here, give them resources to learn or research sexuality issues and find answers and satisfy that curiosity in a place that is supportive and understanding and encouraging – form you and the resources you provide in your home.
Now all this learning about what goes on with your child or his/her peers can leave you with a sense of that you might need to re-evaluate your own sex wisdom.
Our sexual knowledge is as unique as a fingerprint and we are our own source of wisdom.Be honest with yourself and if you need to brush up there are a ton of links, just clicks away from you delivered to you in the comforts off your home – and while some are perfectly safe to view openly most of these sites will be NSFW, so there is your warning.But you know this and shouldn’t be reading about sex at work - right?
So the message of the day is this, educate yourself, educate your children, seek the truth and dispel the myths of sex together.Engage in your children’s lives and feed them with examples, values, knowledge, and ideas that will help them choose and exercise a healthy sexual view and lifestyle that suits them while they grow up, experiment and witness those around them.Help them make smart choices and exercise wise options today and for their future.
If you need more information or have any questions please email or comment me here anytime.
The House of QXI is an erotic gallery I help manage and promote with artist QXI Gears in SecondLife. Some amazing things going on and all the gallery events and happenings are posted there too - so go on and have a look.
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Hello … it’s a beautiful Monday afternoon … sitting in the sun next to my fountain with a cute little ducky by my side (Thank you Q!).Long story about this duck – I’ll spare you the details.But anyway I want to share with you some recent developments that I am proud of and that starting here with the fountain.
I claimed this little 2048 sq. m. plot of land back in December, the 29th, 2008 to be exact when my friend Q’s neighbor put her land up for sale.The piece I have is directly next door and near another friends property is, Gidge and the Bot Man.Anywho… I have been slowly building and adding things and recently I was paid a compliment from my other two neighbors on my place – so for a novice builder I am I was proud and flattered…and it all started with this fountain.
Well…its mid-February and well the place has changed a lot.You can fish here, relax, explore the cave and find hidden treasures and much more is to come!The fountain boarders my SL partner QXI Gears’s land, she is an incredible 3d artist.She is also my longtime SL friend (luv u Q!) – anyway, her gallery The House of QXI is next door to mine and you can get a landmark from my land to teleport there or click here … http://slurl.com/secondlife/Estruda/208/208/38
I will warn you her work is not for the faint at heart – she makes explicit scenes that make your mind go WOW.I am a huge fan of hers – but I do know too other artists admire her talent when we visit galleries and attend openings.She was featured in Eye Candy Magazine recently (you can get your free copy at the gallery) and she has a new gallery with four floors that are quickly filling up.Together her and I are working on a project that I am excited and nervous about.Soon real soon!With out her advice and being there to answer silly questions I wouldn’t be as far as I am with my own place.(Thanks Q!)
All this came from my “little fountain” which flowed tons of inspiration for the Land of Sloitkut to be home to Hidden Treasures ~ For Your Pleasures, a place for my friends and family to call home and hang-out to and do things that you can only do in SL.
One thing that is best suited with SL is creating and “experience” – when you learn in SL it’s different than traditional learning.It’s hard to explain – it’s just best done, to just hop on the train and take the ride and make your own judgments about virtual worlds like SecondLife.To me its pretty close to magical, I can do things in SL I can’t in real life – and there is the mystery and awe to me.Ask me a year from now and I don’t know if it will be the same but I am sure enjoying it for now.
That said I like SL, I like how there is a lot of creativity and collaboration and experience.And I like that a lot.That’s why I wanted to learn to build and make things in SL and share them with you in my world, my little niche, my cave, my little plot of green by the wayside – did I mention you can fish here?And I love to travel in SL and see other people’s builds and sims – some are absolutely amazing.I could go on like some brain-washed cult member but I won’t.
So this is the first stop on my land and well if you want to know what the Duck is – well, you just have to get here and find out for yourself.If you need help I am here!
…or drop me a notecard at Sloitkut Maynard I’ll send you a limo.
Kisses and Hugs ~Me
Special messages To …
FYP…Yes I have been MIA from the FYP chats and message boards and meetings…I plan on coming back soon I promise!It’s all Heather Calma’s fault really.I can tell you goal setting and being accountable and doing what you say is hard but I find it is totally rewarding.I haven’t met my long term goal as of yet but I am getting there … I have this huge learning curve and the crazy ideas keep me up at night, up at my computer scheming and working it all out.
Ducky…I saw you post on the Sex 2.0 group and I hope you do get to speak.And I do hope they hold the conference in-world like they did with BlogHer 2008, that way I can “be there” in SL which is second best to being there in person.Good Luck!
Sarah!...WHERE ARE YOU!!!!!
Andi...I love you - kiss them babies and hug em hard.
Susie...U suck! or maybe you don't Suck enough?
Mama Delores and Girls - See you soon! What shall I bring? Booze or beer? I can do a Monday!!
Everyone ...I leave you with a little video
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Ok so it been like August and October since I have posted…I know no excuses but who reads me anyway, right? *Hears crickets in the background** Anyway, I have been busy setting up shop in SL, writing and working on other creative projects. Over the holidays we did the family thing, shared colds, played games and ate tons of food. Today we are hanging around in pj’s, have the Super Bowl snack fare ready and just doing whatever. Gidge says, “It’s the last day of Christmas! Hooray for FEASTS and FOOTBALL” and I have to agree – the fun, food and festivities kinda come to a finish today. If I see another cheese ball or chip I’ll puke. But Valentines is right around the corner, my favorite candy season for… Chocolate, dark only please and hold the nuts. So I am alive and kicking and enjoying this thing called life - hope you all are too!!
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